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FAQs

TROs

Q: What is a Family Court TRO?

A:

A Family Court Temporary Restraining Order (TRO) is an order of protection for victims of domestic violence (DV) against their alleged abusers. For these victims, a TRO acts as a “legal shield” against further abuse that is enforceable by the police. It provides a crucial line of defense to ensure the security and well-being of the traumatized victim. A TRO prohibits any type of contact whether in person or electronically or written. 

Q: Who can file a Family Court TRO?

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ONLY spouses, former spouses, persons who have a child (ren) in common, parents/legal guardians on behalf of children, persons related by blood, family members or household members on behalf of an incapacitated person, and persons who have or have had a dating relationship. If you do not have any of the above relationship to the other party you can contact the Honolulu District Court at 538-5629 for more information.

Q: What information will I need to file?

A:

It is important to have dates of the abuse or threats, a description of any physical/ psychological abuse or threats of harm and/or property damage. It is also important to have a general description of the other party (photo and social security if available) and a physical address where the police can serve the other party with the TRO. 

Q: When does a TRO go into effect?

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The TRO will be valid as soon as the petition is granted and signed by the Judge, however the TRO does not go into effect against the Respondent until the TRO is properly served upon the Respondent. 

Q: How long does a TRO last?

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A TRO will remain in effect for 180 days. At the court hearing, the Judge may extend the order for a longer period. 

Q: Do I need to have an attorney to represent me in the Court?

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You are not required to have an attorney to represent you at the court hearing however, should you wish to have representation it is your responsibility to obtain your own attorney. The Family Court does NOT appoint attorney’s to represent either party in these proceedings. Ala Kuola can provide referrals at your request. 

Q: Can I pre-fill out the TRO forms online?

A:

YES. If you would like to pre-fill out the TRO forms online before coming into our office you can access the forms online under the Hawaii State Judiciary website. Click here, Hawaii State Judiciary Forms. Scroll down to "TRO Forms" to begin. 

An abuser will hit their partner an average of 35 times before the police are notified for the first time.

Coaching Boys into Men

Q: Why is the CBIM program important for our community?

A:

Many people judge athletic accomplishments by counting wins and losses, but some coaches will tell you that their legacy is much more personal. Every day millions of lives are devastated by violence in the home. Some are particularly vulnerable, with 1 in 3 women reporting physical or sexual abuse by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives. Teenagers, like adults, sometimes experience violence and abuse in their young relationships as well. In fact, 1 in 3 teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been physically hurt by their partner. Coaching Boys into Men is a program that helps build healthy relationships and prevent violence – stopping the cycle of abuse before it even starts. 

Q: Why coaches?

A:

Winning games is important to every coach; however, it’s not the only goal. Athletic coaches can play an influential role in the lives of young men, often serving as lifelong mentors to the boys they coach. Because of this unique relationship, coaches are poised to positively influence how young men think and behave on and off the field. Whether it’s in talks with the team, practice sessions, game days, or simply casual conversation, coaches have numerous opportunities to teach early and often that violence has no place in relationships. 

Q: Why athletes?

A:

By and large, athletes are often popular and influential leaders among their peers. The qualities of a successful athlete, such as discipline, cooperation, and integrity are also the building blocks to becoming a respectful individual and role model for others. 

Q: What is involved in being a CBIM Coach?

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Since the launch of CBIM in 2001, thousands of coaches around the world have signed up in support. Over the course of a season, CBIM coaches lead their players through brief weekly activities that address themes such as personal responsibility, respectful behavior and relationship abuse. Contact us at (808) 545-1880 to learn more.

Q: Where can I find out more information about CBIM?

A:

Call Ala Kuola at (808) 545-1880 or visit coachescorner.org 

Q:

I'm a coach/mentor and would like to provide this program to my teens. how do I do that?

A:

We would be thrilled to have you as one of our CBIM coaches! Please call us at (808) 545-1880 to schedule a training.

Boys who witness domestic violence are twice as likely to abuse their own partners and children when they become adults.

Still have questions?

Call us at (808) 545-1880 to speak to someone in our office.